MY HAIR REGIMEN FOR 2014!

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Aceey's hair

Hey everyone, I just wanted to have my updated hair regimen in one place!

Wash Day – Once or twice a week:

***SPECIAL NOTE*** I normally part my hair in six sections before washing and conditioning if I am roller setting my hair.

– Pre-treat hair with coconut oil or extra virgin olive oil for one hour or overnight. This protects my hair from the harsh effects of shampoo.

– Clarify hair with clarifying shampoo or neutralizing shampoo 1x. My favorite is Suave Clarifying Shampoo.

– Use moisturizing shampoo– Right now, my favorite is Silk Dreams Go Moist Shampoo.

– Protein Treatment for 20 mins. with plastic cap or I sit under the dryer for 10 mins. with my favorite protein treatment: Silk Dreams Mocha Silk Infusion. I use protein once a week to keep my hair strong, as I am relaxed, color treated and use heat.

– Moisturizing Conditioner for 10 mins. I sometimes do a steaming treatment (apply conditioner, apply hot wet turban on head followed by a plastic cap, then sit under a dryer for 10 mins.). I always follow-up my protein treatment with a moisturizing conditioner. ***Special Note*** I comb my hair with a shower comb while under the flow of water from the shower to detangle my hair before styling. I do not towel dry my hair before roller setting. 

– Rinse hair and apply a leave-in conditioner.  I mix Silk Dreams Mocha Silk Hair Milk with Motions Foaming Wrap Lotion (for extra hold and curl retention). I normally set my hair in rollers or plait my hair with small rollers on the ends (braid-out style). I sit under a hooded dryer for about 45 mins.

– Apply Silk Dreams PRE oil to new growth. Flat iron new growth only. *** I do not comb through the curls or apply heat to the ends of my hair.

Aceey's Hair

Nightly:

– Massage scalp with Njoy Essentials Long and Healthy Hair Growth Oil.

– Apply a small amount of Silk Dreams Almond Buttercream to length of hair, especially to ends. Tie hair with scarf.

-Seal with Silk Dreams Nourish Oil, sparingly.

Every 3-4 months – Color Day

– Mix approximately 150g of henna with black tea and let sit in bowl overnight before applying to hair in sections. Then apply plastic cap. I normally let this sit in my hair for 2-3 hours or sit under the dryer with it.

– Rinse with the assistance of VO5 conditioner. I do not use shampoo to rinse dye from hair.

– Mix 100-150g of indigo with water+2 teaspoons of iodine-free salt  and immediately apply to hair. Apply plastic cap. I do not wait for the indigo to change color before applying to the hair. Rinse with the help of VO5 Conditioner.

Aceey's hair

Every 5-6 months – Relaxing Day

– Wait at least 4 days after washing hair before relaxer day. The night before relaxer, I apply oil or a grease to my scalp for protection (basing scalp). I also apply conditioner to the previously relaxed hair.

– Apply relaxer to new growth only, smoothing with fingers only.

– Rinse relaxer after processing and immediately apply neutralizing conditioner or protein conditioner. Wait 5 mins, rinse and repeat until hair has no relaxer residue. I find this protein step very beneficial for hair– it gives it volume and body!

– Wash hair with Neutralizing shampoo with color alarm until suds are white. Condition hair with moisturizing conditioner for at least 10 mins.

– Rinse, apply leave-in conditioner and style. Sometimes I relax and color my hair on the same day.

My Favorite Products

Shampoos

  • Suave Clarifying Shampoo
  • VO5 Clarifying Shampoo
  • Mane n’ Tail Original Shampoo
  • Silk Dreams Go Moist Shampoo
  • Silk Dreams Whip My Hair Cleansing Cream

Protein Treatments

  • Silk Dreams Mocha Silk Infusion
  • Joico K-Pak
  • Generic Joico K-Pak (Sally Beauty Supply Store)
  • Aphogee 2-Minute Keratin Reconstructor

Aceey - How I typically wear my hair when it is down.

Moisturizing Conditioners

  • Silk Dreams Vanilla Silk Moisturizing Conditioner
  • Silk Dreams Razzberry Coconut Affair
  • Mane n’ Tail Original Conditioner

Detangling, Rinse-out Conditioners

  • VO5 Conditioners
  • Suave Conditioners
  • Silk Dreams Destination Hydration
  • Mane n’ Tail Original Conditioner

Leave-in Conditioners

  • Silk Dreams Mocha Silk Hair Milk
  • Silk Dreams Wheat Germ Butter Conditioner
  • Motions Foaming Wrap Lotion (usually mixed with one of the above leave-in conditioners)

Moisturizers/Sealants/Oils

  • Silk Dreams Almond Buttercream
  • Extra virgin olive oil
  • Virgin coconut oil
  • Dabur Vatika Hair Oil
  • Silk Dreams Nourish Oil
  • Silk Dreams Mocha Bling Butter
  • Silk Dreams End-tegrity Ends Oil
  • Silk Dreams PRE
  • Njoy’s Long and Healthy Hair Growth Oil

Other Products

  • Alter Ego Linange Shea Butter Relaxer (The best relaxer on the planet)
  • Alter Ego Linange Shea Butter Neutralizing Conditioner
  • Karishma Henna – For color
  • Godrej Nupur Henna Power with 9 Herbs – for color
  • Zenia Pure Indigo Powder (found online)

Websites

Why I Don’t Work for Free – Real Talk!

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Working for free leaves you broke.This is my six year anniversary of resume writing, and I just completed my first year as doing it as a job and side gig. I make occasional posts on social media of my victories, which prompts family and friends to ask me to help with their resumes. At first, I helped for free with no issue but then…

Life got in the way!

I almost wore myself out! I had to begin to charge a fee for the service, even to my family and friends—sometimes actually having to decline to provide my services due to the amount of people that would request help. True colors came out and I got hate-mail for charging a fee. So I will explain in great detail why there is a cost for service.

1. I can’t give you quality service for free!

Resume writing and career coaching takes time, effort, and a lot of work on my end. Look at all the stuff that goes into providing a quality resume and job search coaching session:

1. I interview clients on what they want in a position, whether it is a new position, a promotion in a current industry, or if the client is using transferable skills to switch industries.

2. I edit resumes & cover letters, check for grammar, spelling, subject/verb agreement errors (and you would be surprised what “Spell-Check” does not pick up. 🙂 ).

3. I teach how to find positions without the use of internet job openings (keep in mind that over 70% of open positions are NOT posted online).

4. I speak with people daily on how important interview attire is; I discuss the importance of confidence, questions that the interviewer will ask and questions to ask the interviewer.

5. I teach follow-up tips: thank you letters, how to contact employers and how to record the job search to document all progress.

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To give people, for free, the complete package so that they don’t come back running every time they need a new job for free is a disservice to myself, as there is so much energy that goes into getting you the results you want. It’s not just about making a resume pretty (although, I do that too, for a nominal fee).

I work a full time job doing all those things listed, plus I do career coaching on the side. It sometimes takes up to 19 hours of my day. So, time = money!

2. I do not want you to have sub-par quality work or to not have the work done at all.

For example: Sally wants me to do resume, However, I have 4 resumes to edit at work, 3 resumes with my side gig (and they are actually paying me), plus personal things to do (yes, in the midst of saving the world, I do have a personal life). Guess what gets put on the backburner? Yep, Sally’s resume.

3. Resume writing and career coaching takes time, effort and a lot of work on YOUR end.

Looking for a job or trying to switch careers is a full-time job! Not only do job seekers have to scour the internet for job postings, but since 70-80% of all open positions are not even posted online, much of the leg-work involves searching for companies in certain industries. I would say that more than 90% of job seekers that I meet do not even do this step due to not knowing that they can apply for unlisted positions or opt out of this step just out of laziness.

Resume writing and editing takes a lot of work!

Since it’s important to have a different resume for each job you apply for, making them takes a lot of time! Someone who strategically applies for positions by changing their resume to meet the needs of the employer has a better shot at a job than someone who aimlessly applies for 60 positions online by using the same resume with no cover letter. You have to put in work and

your time = money too.

4. A job search in itself is an investment!

Look at all the stuff you have to buy to have an effective, successful job search:

– Resume paper

– Interview attire (outfits, shoes)

– Faxing fees

– Postal mail fees (stamps, envelopes)

– Transportation fees (gas, public transportation fees, taxicab fare)

– A portfolio to hold all your documents

– Books and publications that teach how to search for positions successfully.

If you are a job seeker not making an investment to purchase the bare minimum to have a great job search you won’t get the job of your dreams!

5. You won’t put in effort when you don’t put value to it!

Do people read free books? Most of the time, NO. It sits on the shelf, especially if it is a book in which they are not interested.

At one time, I did request to view resumes for free… What would happen? Sometimes I wouldn’t get the resume at all when I asked for them. It would almost be like pulling teeth for the person to send back the resume corrections or to let me know if they made their list of 35-50 companies to research and make attempts to contact them.

It’s so much easier to teach people how to find jobs on their own than to have them come to me every time they want a new job. It’s like the “teach a man to fish” proverb. 🙂

So there you have it!  Quality work = quality time = quality money. If you read this post carefully, you’d know how to save money by reading my tips and great books on how to find jobs (actually reading this post teaches exactly how to revamp a successful job search plan).

Habakkuk 2:2- “And the Lord answered me, and said, Write the vision, and make it plain upon tables, that he may run that readeth it.”

SILK DREAMS HAIR CARE PRODUCTS 20% OFF SALE – VALENTINE’S DAY ONLY!!!

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We interrupt this “Salary Negotiation Series” to bring to you a special announcement…

Silk Dreams Hair Care is having a Valentine’s Day Sale!!!! Yes!!!!!!!!!! Yes!!!!

Silk Dreams 20% off sale on Valentine's Day, February 14, 2012 ONLY!

Use the coupon code: ” THANKSACEEY ” to take 20% off your entire purchase from Silk Dreams Hair Care on February 14, 2013 only! (No quotations, no spaces, in Caps Lock).

For those that don’t know about this amazing product line, I use Silk Dreams exclusively on my hair to maintain its health, shine, and manageability. I can go months without a relaxer with these products. You can check for my hair regimen by going here:  Aceey’s Hair Regimen.  I absolutely love the way my hair looks and feels after using the line. Treat yourself to dreaming in silk! All hair types can use this line! Whether you are natural, color-treated, permed, relaxed, or just want to indulge your hair in spa treatments from the best online hair care boutique ever. This is also a great line for people who are transitioning from relaxed/permed hair to natural hair.

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I believe my hair was 3 months post-relaxer in this photo.

And if you are a person who loves their products to smell good, get these products! The products smell like:

  • Chocolate
  • Mocha Latte
  • Vanilla Frosting
  • Lemongrass
  • Mixed Fruit 
  • Cafe au Lait
  • Pecan Pie
  • White Chocolate
  • Vanilla/Oatmeal Cookies
  • Caramel Mocha

You can see my posts on LongHairCareForum.com reviewing many of the Silk Dreams Product line by clicking here. 

I am very excited that Silk Dreams Hair Care has chosen my blog to help share their amazing hair care line!  So MARK YOUR CALENDARS for February 14, 2013 for this sale!

Enjoy this wonderful line… I know I do!

Love,

Aceey Emme (Angelicus)

Salary Negotiation Series – Part 2 – How to Get a Raise at Your Current Job? Dress the Part!

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Click here to read Part 1 of the Salary Negotiation Series– How to Negotiate Salary After a Job Offer is Given  

I will never forget a guest speaker at a Management Honor Society Meeting I attended during college. She started off as a lowly receptionist that eventually became a manager and made more money because of one thing:

She changed her dress!

Things started changing when I started getting my clothes dry-cleaned. There was one specific professional blouse that I liked to wear when I knew upper management would have their meetings. Eventually I was asked to sit in those meetings. I really don’t think they would have let me take part in these meetings if I didn’t dress the part. Soon, I was asked to not only take a part in them, but to start running the meetings, then I became a boss!”

Are you at your job, making the same amount of money you were making last year? The reason may be because you’re dressing the same way you were dressing when you were first hired! Let’s face it, the coined phrase “appearance is reality” will not go away, regardless if you are the best person for the promotion or salary increase! So before you create your performance appraisal you want to make sure you are dressing as if you already have the raise! Let’s get started!

Scenario #1: The Telemarketing/Customer Service Employee

You’re on the phone all day with little physical contact with customers so there is a chance that your company may allow you to wear anything you want. You will see your co-workers coming to work with their pajamas, piercings, jeans, unpressed clothes and unkept hair. But if you want that promotion, you want to dress like you are the boss… Business casual! Why? Because:

1. You will have better posture when you are wearing nice clothes – I feel proud, professional, and in charge when I wear my business casual attire while the drones are wearing t-shirts and baggy jeans. I sit up with my chest out, shoulders back, and a smile!

2. Upper management will pay attention to you – your manager will notice that you are dressing like a manager and they will want to monitor you more often to find out if you meet the requirements for a promotion.

3. You will be invited to more decision-making meetings – or if you are in group meetings, you will look like the ace-beaucoup, next in line to be the boss.

4. At a group meeting, your ensemble is not complete unless you have a notebook – that includes bringing a notebook and being engaged in the meeting, regardless of how boring or short is. You will look so nice that they may ask you to be in upper-level management meetings instead of meetings with the other drones.

5. Your co-workers will begin to talk to you differently – Instead of your colleagues saying to you, “gimme some paper,” they will ask you, “Could I have some paper, please?”

Side note: If you are a woman: Wear make-up, if you’re not wearing any now. It’s been proven that make-up shows that you mean business! You don’t need to look like you are on the cover of Vanity Fair, but arching your eyebrows, wearing eye make-up paired with your favorite lip color MAKES THE DIFFERENCE!

Scenario #2- The fast food/retail employee – or Anybody Wearing a Uniform

Yes, even people at McDonald’s can get a raise! Dressing the part is a key in getting that raise and having people treat you more seriously at work! But how in the world can you set yourself apart if you have to wear a uniform like everybody else?

– Wear clothes that fit properly – Wearing clothes that fit properly give the illusion that you have either lost weight or not afraid to bend over backwards to help. Plus, it’s just more comfortable to wear clothes that fit!

– Press your clothes! – Even if you wear scrubs—even if you wear permanent press clothes, always look put-together. If that means waking up 30 minutes earlier, do it! The compliments that you get will build your confidence. Even if you work at a fast food restaurant, press everything! Have a crease in your pants, wear a belt, shine your shoes and try not to wear sneakers. If you wear black pants, wear black socks. Side note: Black Pants  ≠ White socks. Just…say… no! 😀

– If you wear a polo-style shirt – Tuck in your shirt and wear a belt. Again, this helps with posture and creating a gives that “appearance vs. reality” look!

– Wear leather shoes or good walking shoes instead of sneakers. If you must wear sneakers, be sure they are professional-looking as possible. The cow is dead anyway– you might as well wear it. 😀

Watch how differently customers will treat you when you look like the manager. They’ll talk to you better, they’ll think you are the boss. Your boss will see your posture and immediately say “Hey, that looks like my next assistant manager, or team lead!”

Giving the appearance that you deserve that raise sets you up for appraisal meetings resulting in a higher salary. Invest in yourself and watch your pockets get bigger! Part 3 of the Salary Negotiation Series will give personal examples of how I negotiated salary or earned a salary increase at previous positions. Good luck, and make that money!

Salary Negotiation Series Part 1- How to Negotiate Salary After a Job Offer is Given

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The possibilities are endless, it's up to you how much money you want to make!

I get a ton of questions about salary—and with good reason too: the gender/income gap employee, the new graduate/entry level employee, and the seasoned-in-the-field candidate all want to know when and how they can make more money! Can you negotiate if you are in either situation? The answer is always yes!

In all three scenarios, most of the time, the reason that these three candidates did not get a higher salary is answered in the best-selling book of all time:

James 4:2 “…ye have not, because ye ask not.”

Yep! Your salary isn’t higher because you didn’t ask for it to be higher. Eight times out of ten, a newly hired employee will not attempt to negotiate salary because:

  1. They don’t know they have the opportunity to negotiate
  2. They are afraid that the offer will be recanted if they ask for more money
  3. They’re so eager or desperate to work that they will take any offer given to them.

I rarely hear women negotiating salary, yet they wonder why the salary/gender gap is so high. Ladies, pardon mon francais, mais, we are going to have to man up, LOL! I rarely see black men negotiate too. Well… look no further because I am here to save the day and I don’t need a Lincoln Hat!

Interviewing and Negotiating

Your best bet is to work on your salary negotiation tips before you are offered the position so if the opportunity to negotiate arises, you will be ready!

Q: When do you negotiate salary? Do I talk about salary during the interview?

A: You discuss salary negotiations after you are given an offer. Do not discuss money with your interviewer or recruiter until you are given an offer. By the time you are in that interview chair or in your phone interview, you should already know the possible salary range you should be given.

Always negotiate salary. Always negotiate salary. Always negotiate salary. Can’t stress that enough!

Q: What if they bring up salary during the interview, even if I don’t bring it up? What should I do?

A: If you’re in that interview chair, your research on how much you may be making should already be done. Check www.salary.com or www.glassdoor.com for all the salary range information you need. During your initial interview with your recruiter/prospective employer, it’s best that you not give a number at this time… because you haven’t been given an offer. Go ahead and use the Socratic Questioning method:

-“Are you providing an offer for the position since you are considering a salary for me?”

-“I am also eager to begin working also, but does this mean you are offering me the position?”

Yep! Put them in the hot seat! This shows that you don’t care about the money—what you care about is being hired and making the company money!

So let’s make a scenario. You get a phone call from one of the many jobs for which you interviewed and you are given an offer of $X per year. What’s next?

You Have to Negotiate Rather Than Demand!

Table 14-1 Negotiate Rather Than Demand!

 Ultimatum or Demand (Don’t do!)   Negotiating Questions (Just do it!) 
Thanks for your offer, but I need a much higher salary and reimbursement for my moving expenses to take the job. I am so excited about the possibility of contributing my skills to this organization. But is there any flexibility or wiggle room in your salary offer and could your office help cover my moving expenses?
I appreciate your offer. But I’m afraid that compensation might be a deal-breaker. I’m excited about this job. I’d like to work out an agreement that would make both of us feel great. Would it be possible for you to raise your salary offer? I think I deserve consideration on this because…
Table Excerpt from the book, How to Land a Top-paying Federal Job

And you better come correct with the reasons why you deserve a higher salary too! 😀

Another rule, don’t give your recruiter just one salary number. Give the recruiter a salary range. Remember, you are negotiating, not demanding!  Check out this dialogue for a great example on negotiating:

Interviewer: We would like to congratulate you on getting the position! Your salary is going to be $X K a year.

You: That is excellent news! Thank you so much for offering me this position! But is there any flexibility or wiggle room in your salary offer? *pause!*

Interviewer: What salary were you thinking about getting?

You: Based on my ___________ *give them 2 or 3 reasons why you are the best candidate, not the reasons why you deserve or demand a salary increase* I believe a salary range of $X+Y to $X + (Y+ 3) is sufficient.

Now prepare for the answer… most of the time, the recruiter is not in charge of your salary, especially if the position is for a large company. They may have to contact their manager or someone in corporate to find out if you are approved for a salary increase; also they may need to check their budget to find out if they can afford you (because you’re so awesome, professional, and amazing)!

Remember that salary range that you gave them? If you gave them the salary range of $X + Y to $X + (Y+3), chances are the company is going to be cheap and give you the lowest number in your range. Look at my FUN equation, hee hee:

X =  Original salary offer

X <  X+Y

BOOM! Even though you didn’t get the top number in your requested salary range, you just made more money than your future colleagues. But wait… there’s more! Look at all this other stuff you can negotiate!

Example of what you can negotiate

Benefits That May Be Negotiable
Salary

Student Loan Repayment

Relocation Bonus and or moving expenses, if you are moving to take the job

Recruitment bonus

Accelerated vacation accrual rate

Start Date

Alternative work schedule or telecommuting options

Tuition reimbursement, if you want to take job-related courses or earn another degree

Parking, if you drive to work

Access to childcare facilities

Date of your first review

Salary advance

Table Excerpt from the book How to Land a Top-paying Federal Job

For example: wouldn’t it be nice to have a fun 2 WEEK paid vacation? Or 12 weeks maternity leave? Ahhhhhh… 😀

As you can see, my favorite book on this subject is Lily Whiteman’s How to Land a Top-paying Federal Job. Please read that book for the best tips on salary negotiation!

Part 2 of my Salary Negotiation Series is going to cover my personal tactics and examples of how I negotiated salary—some of which are… awkward, embarrassing, downright unconventional, but they worked. Part 3 of the Salary Negotiation Series will discuss how to get a promotion at your current job—a must-read for everyone! STAY TUNED!

My credentials?

1. I have been helping people find employment and (make more money) for over 5 years. I’m professionally trained in career coaching, resume writing, and personal development. I actually do this for a living, 😀
2. I have been successful in negotiating my own salary and promotions for over 6 years.
3. I like grapes. Grapes are fun.

More Fun Natural Hair Treatments – Part Two

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Just to piggy-back on my last blog post: This post is dedicated to newest hair buddy, Cokie, whom I’ve known for a long time! I had no idea Cokie was a “hair person” until she began posting about her and her daughters’ natural hair journey on Facebook! I am honored to be her hair buddy and can’t wait to have a “Hair Party” with her and the gang!

Everyone knows that I am ride or die relaxed girl —this means that I apply a chemical product to my new growth every four months to straighten it. However, I use a TON of natural products, food items, herbs and mixtures to my hair. It’s cheap, it’s effective, and my hair is gorgeous! I have done so many fun hair treatments but I’d like to share just 2 of some that are not widely discussed!

Treatment: Coconut oil infused with curry leaves or amla berries.

What does it do?: This is an age-old Indian remedy! Promotes circulation, fights premature gray hairs, penetrates and moisturizes hair strands.

How do you do it?: This is so easy to do! All you do is get your coconut oil hot and then add your herbs/berries to it. After infusing, draining, and cooling, apply to your hair and scalp for massage. After massaging your hair for about 15 minutes, wash your hair as usual.

Where do you get it?: You can get real, virgin coconut oil for a cheap price at any Asian market. Amla powder/berries and curry leaves can also be purchased there.

Watch this informative video on how to infuse the oil:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uCRIavD2C5s

There are many other commercial oils infused with herbs but they do have preservatives in them for shelf-life purposes. I have found them to be almost as effective as the oils I infuse at home.

Parachute coconut oil – oil from sun-roasted coconuts is awesome for the hair. It has a bit of a burnt coconut smell but it actually grew on me, lol!

Dabur Vatika Oil – mixture of coconut oil, amla, henna and other goodies to promote hair growth, sheen, luster, and health. This is one of my favorite ready-made oils to purchase!

Don’t forget that coconut oil is solid under 76 degrees Fahrenheit. You may need to sit the bottle in the bathroom with you while showering to get it to melt and pour from the coconut oil bottles. There are many other commercial oils that people find effective, however all the other Dabur brand oils from India are too stinky for me! Haha!

Treatment: Marshmallow Root Powder

What does it do?: Marshmallow root rinses make your hair naturally have “slip,” meaning that it provides detangling properties to the hair after washing.

How do you do it?: Marshmallow root powder can be seeped in water to make a tea. A special note on seeping: It’s important to not boil teas/mixtures. We seep them to not boil out the active natural ingredients which help the hair.

Where do you get it?: Natural food stores, international markets. It’s usually in the bulk herb section.

A cool variation is marshmallow root powder mixed with Bentonite clay for a detox/cleanse. Feel free to go back to my last blog post on info on the Bentonite clay!

You can watch EmpressRi’s video on how she cleans her hair with this mixture:

Well that’s my ramble for the night! Hopefully, my next hair post will be about some of the many tea rinses that I apply to my hair and scalp for retaining growth! Happy hair growing!

(still having technical difficulties with WordPress but the show must go on!)

Keeping Hair Moisturized and Breakage Free!

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If you are experiencing dry hair that keeps breaking, this may be the post for you. I apply random treatments to my hair depending on how it feels or how I want it to look. Here are my tips and treatments, regardless of if you are natural, relaxed, or color-treated, you may benefit from these inexpensive tips!

I always pre-treat my hair before shampooing twice a week for about an hour. After applying the treatment, I like to put on a shower cap, followed by a hot, wet turban– creating a steam treatment.

Clarifying Shampoo is usually very harsh so combat it by doing either one of the following before washing:

Bentonite Clay Mask – Clarifying, Cleansing, Purifying

A few tablespoons of Bentonite Clay and water mixed together into a mud-like consistency is applied to my hair and scalp for a great detox.

Aztec Bentonite Clay has so many uses. Use as a hair, scalp, and skin detox. A $8.00 jar will last you years!

Hot Oil Treatment – Moisturizing, Soothing, Relaxing

Here are my favorite oils:
Extra virgin olive oil
Coconut oil
Silk Dreams Nourish Oil
Silk Dreams PRE

Oils

Hot Oil Treatments are great! Many oils can actually penetrate the hair shaft, bringing in moisture.

Mayonnaise Treatment – Strengthening, Moisturizing, Softening

A fourth of a cup to a 1/2 cup of mayonnaise is applied to my hair before shampooing.

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Mayonnaise– I won’t eat it but I sure would put it in my hair!

Scalp Scrub – Detoxifying, Soothing, Cleansing

Coarse sea salt mixed with 2 drops of peppermint essential oil and enough olive oil to make a paste is massaged into the scalp for about 10-15 minutes.

Salt Scrub

Those body scrubs are not just for your skin! Try it on your scalp!

Fattening Treatment – Moisturizing and Softening

Mash one overripe avocado, then beat until it is smooth. Apply to hair and let sit for one hour.

Avocados!

Extremely fattening! Fat is good for the hair!

Regular Conditioner Treatment

Favorite conditioner is applied to dry hair before steam treatment.

Washing and Conditioning in Sections

I learned this method from http://www.growafrohairlong.com . I keep my hair sectioned in six parts while washing and conditioning in my hair, especially when I know I am going to be roller setting my hair. It’s a This shortens the roller setting time dramatically– and makes it easier.

Conair Shower Comb

Can’t live without my shower comb!

Using a Wide-toothed Shower Comb

I always use a shower comb to detangle my hair while I am rinsing conditioner out of my hair. The brand I currently use is the Conair shower comb. It’s a very inexpensive product (less than
$2.00) but it’s invaluable– don’t know what I would do without it.

Caffeine Rinse (Tea and Coffee)

Caffeine rinses dramatically reduce shedding due to the tannins in the mixtures. Just brew 1-2 cups of coffee or tea and pour over your hair and scalp after rinsing out your conditioner. This rinse serves as your leave-in conditioner. Your hair may feel a little weird while setting your hair, however, that feeling dissipates when the hair dries. You will see a DRAMATIC reduction in shedding. Since the pH of caffiene rinses are quite low (4-6) it closes the cuticle of the hair, leaving it shiny and detangled.

Bigelow Vanilla Chai

Although this tea tastes gross, it is my favorite brand to use as a caffeine rinse– and it smells heavenly!

Roller Setting Hair Upwards

Most people roller set downward, towards the nape. I have found that rolling the hair on the roller and rolling upwards straightens new growth. Also, my hair dries faster when I roll
this way! Look at my results:

Rolling hair upwards smooths new growth: I am four months post-relaxer in this picture and my curls lasted all day!

Try these tips and write me back to let me know how they are working for you! I am looking forward to some great responses!