SILK DREAMS HAIR CARE PRODUCTS 20% OFF SALE – VALENTINE’S DAY ONLY!!!

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We interrupt this “Salary Negotiation Series” to bring to you a special announcement…

Silk Dreams Hair Care is having a Valentine’s Day Sale!!!! Yes!!!!!!!!!! Yes!!!!

Silk Dreams 20% off sale on Valentine's Day, February 14, 2012 ONLY!

Use the coupon code: ” THANKSACEEY ” to take 20% off your entire purchase from Silk Dreams Hair Care on February 14, 2013 only! (No quotations, no spaces, in Caps Lock).

For those that don’t know about this amazing product line, I use Silk Dreams exclusively on my hair to maintain its health, shine, and manageability. I can go months without a relaxer with these products. You can check for my hair regimen by going here:  Aceey’s Hair Regimen.  I absolutely love the way my hair looks and feels after using the line. Treat yourself to dreaming in silk! All hair types can use this line! Whether you are natural, color-treated, permed, relaxed, or just want to indulge your hair in spa treatments from the best online hair care boutique ever. This is also a great line for people who are transitioning from relaxed/permed hair to natural hair.

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I believe my hair was 3 months post-relaxer in this photo.

And if you are a person who loves their products to smell good, get these products! The products smell like:

  • Chocolate
  • Mocha Latte
  • Vanilla Frosting
  • Lemongrass
  • Mixed Fruit 
  • Cafe au Lait
  • Pecan Pie
  • White Chocolate
  • Vanilla/Oatmeal Cookies
  • Caramel Mocha

You can see my posts on LongHairCareForum.com reviewing many of the Silk Dreams Product line by clicking here. 

I am very excited that Silk Dreams Hair Care has chosen my blog to help share their amazing hair care line!  So MARK YOUR CALENDARS for February 14, 2013 for this sale!

Enjoy this wonderful line… I know I do!

Love,

Aceey Emme (Angelicus)

Salary Negotiation Series Part 1- How to Negotiate Salary After a Job Offer is Given

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The possibilities are endless, it's up to you how much money you want to make!

I get a ton of questions about salary—and with good reason too: the gender/income gap employee, the new graduate/entry level employee, and the seasoned-in-the-field candidate all want to know when and how they can make more money! Can you negotiate if you are in either situation? The answer is always yes!

In all three scenarios, most of the time, the reason that these three candidates did not get a higher salary is answered in the best-selling book of all time:

James 4:2 “…ye have not, because ye ask not.”

Yep! Your salary isn’t higher because you didn’t ask for it to be higher. Eight times out of ten, a newly hired employee will not attempt to negotiate salary because:

  1. They don’t know they have the opportunity to negotiate
  2. They are afraid that the offer will be recanted if they ask for more money
  3. They’re so eager or desperate to work that they will take any offer given to them.

I rarely hear women negotiating salary, yet they wonder why the salary/gender gap is so high. Ladies, pardon mon francais, mais, we are going to have to man up, LOL! I rarely see black men negotiate too. Well… look no further because I am here to save the day and I don’t need a Lincoln Hat!

Interviewing and Negotiating

Your best bet is to work on your salary negotiation tips before you are offered the position so if the opportunity to negotiate arises, you will be ready!

Q: When do you negotiate salary? Do I talk about salary during the interview?

A: You discuss salary negotiations after you are given an offer. Do not discuss money with your interviewer or recruiter until you are given an offer. By the time you are in that interview chair or in your phone interview, you should already know the possible salary range you should be given.

Always negotiate salary. Always negotiate salary. Always negotiate salary. Can’t stress that enough!

Q: What if they bring up salary during the interview, even if I don’t bring it up? What should I do?

A: If you’re in that interview chair, your research on how much you may be making should already be done. Check www.salary.com or www.glassdoor.com for all the salary range information you need. During your initial interview with your recruiter/prospective employer, it’s best that you not give a number at this time… because you haven’t been given an offer. Go ahead and use the Socratic Questioning method:

-“Are you providing an offer for the position since you are considering a salary for me?”

-“I am also eager to begin working also, but does this mean you are offering me the position?”

Yep! Put them in the hot seat! This shows that you don’t care about the money—what you care about is being hired and making the company money!

So let’s make a scenario. You get a phone call from one of the many jobs for which you interviewed and you are given an offer of $X per year. What’s next?

You Have to Negotiate Rather Than Demand!

Table 14-1 Negotiate Rather Than Demand!

 Ultimatum or Demand (Don’t do!)   Negotiating Questions (Just do it!) 
Thanks for your offer, but I need a much higher salary and reimbursement for my moving expenses to take the job. I am so excited about the possibility of contributing my skills to this organization. But is there any flexibility or wiggle room in your salary offer and could your office help cover my moving expenses?
I appreciate your offer. But I’m afraid that compensation might be a deal-breaker. I’m excited about this job. I’d like to work out an agreement that would make both of us feel great. Would it be possible for you to raise your salary offer? I think I deserve consideration on this because…
Table Excerpt from the book, How to Land a Top-paying Federal Job

And you better come correct with the reasons why you deserve a higher salary too! 😀

Another rule, don’t give your recruiter just one salary number. Give the recruiter a salary range. Remember, you are negotiating, not demanding!  Check out this dialogue for a great example on negotiating:

Interviewer: We would like to congratulate you on getting the position! Your salary is going to be $X K a year.

You: That is excellent news! Thank you so much for offering me this position! But is there any flexibility or wiggle room in your salary offer? *pause!*

Interviewer: What salary were you thinking about getting?

You: Based on my ___________ *give them 2 or 3 reasons why you are the best candidate, not the reasons why you deserve or demand a salary increase* I believe a salary range of $X+Y to $X + (Y+ 3) is sufficient.

Now prepare for the answer… most of the time, the recruiter is not in charge of your salary, especially if the position is for a large company. They may have to contact their manager or someone in corporate to find out if you are approved for a salary increase; also they may need to check their budget to find out if they can afford you (because you’re so awesome, professional, and amazing)!

Remember that salary range that you gave them? If you gave them the salary range of $X + Y to $X + (Y+3), chances are the company is going to be cheap and give you the lowest number in your range. Look at my FUN equation, hee hee:

X =  Original salary offer

X <  X+Y

BOOM! Even though you didn’t get the top number in your requested salary range, you just made more money than your future colleagues. But wait… there’s more! Look at all this other stuff you can negotiate!

Example of what you can negotiate

Benefits That May Be Negotiable
Salary

Student Loan Repayment

Relocation Bonus and or moving expenses, if you are moving to take the job

Recruitment bonus

Accelerated vacation accrual rate

Start Date

Alternative work schedule or telecommuting options

Tuition reimbursement, if you want to take job-related courses or earn another degree

Parking, if you drive to work

Access to childcare facilities

Date of your first review

Salary advance

Table Excerpt from the book How to Land a Top-paying Federal Job

For example: wouldn’t it be nice to have a fun 2 WEEK paid vacation? Or 12 weeks maternity leave? Ahhhhhh… 😀

As you can see, my favorite book on this subject is Lily Whiteman’s How to Land a Top-paying Federal Job. Please read that book for the best tips on salary negotiation!

Part 2 of my Salary Negotiation Series is going to cover my personal tactics and examples of how I negotiated salary—some of which are… awkward, embarrassing, downright unconventional, but they worked. Part 3 of the Salary Negotiation Series will discuss how to get a promotion at your current job—a must-read for everyone! STAY TUNED!

My credentials?

1. I have been helping people find employment and (make more money) for over 5 years. I’m professionally trained in career coaching, resume writing, and personal development. I actually do this for a living, 😀
2. I have been successful in negotiating my own salary and promotions for over 6 years.
3. I like grapes. Grapes are fun.

Where Have You Been, Aceey?

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It's me! Aceey!

So it’s been a very long time since my last post and I would like to apologize! I must tell you though, I have not been sitting on my bum doing nothing! Here’s the scoop on what’s been going on these past few months!

I was in a lawsuit! Not pretty! So happy that it is finally over because it took so much of my time (and money).

I dislocated my jaw! I had no idea that was even possible. I have been recovering from this since July and sometimes it still hurts to open my mouth wide. As a singer, this is a horrid punishment. 😦

I moved to a new studio loft, which I LOVE and adore! I’ve also been acting like a tourist in my hometown, just taking walks and enjoying life…

Across the street from where I live

Lake

Arab-American Festival jewelry

I’ve been working on getting my hair longer. I started wearing wigs and weaves to change up my style a little!

I went to Japan for my 30th birthday! AMAZING! This was my second time visiting my brother and I had so much fun that I didn’t want to leave. I CRIED at the airport because of the incredible times we shared!

Golden Shrine in Kyoto, Japan

I’ve been actively working on my professional career as a career coach. I’ve been at it for over five years but there are so many new things to learn. I will be introducing more tips– new and old– in my next posts.

I’ve been cooking… DUH! 🙂 Everyone knows how much I love to cook and here are just 2 pics that you have  been missing out on.

Jambalaya for my co-workers

Shabiyey, custard filled phyllo dough pastries from Lebanon

Batata hara - garlic and cilantro potatoes

Atayef! Custard in wheat+yeast pancakes

My ingredients for Pho

Pho and Jasmine tea

enjoying some good coffee in my demitasse.

So stay tuned for more yapping and fun times! I assure you that I won’t leave you hanging again!

Love,

Aceey Emme (Pronounced “A. C. M.”)

Keeping Hair Moisturized and Breakage Free!

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If you are experiencing dry hair that keeps breaking, this may be the post for you. I apply random treatments to my hair depending on how it feels or how I want it to look. Here are my tips and treatments, regardless of if you are natural, relaxed, or color-treated, you may benefit from these inexpensive tips!

I always pre-treat my hair before shampooing twice a week for about an hour. After applying the treatment, I like to put on a shower cap, followed by a hot, wet turban– creating a steam treatment.

Clarifying Shampoo is usually very harsh so combat it by doing either one of the following before washing:

Bentonite Clay Mask – Clarifying, Cleansing, Purifying

A few tablespoons of Bentonite Clay and water mixed together into a mud-like consistency is applied to my hair and scalp for a great detox.

Aztec Bentonite Clay has so many uses. Use as a hair, scalp, and skin detox. A $8.00 jar will last you years!

Hot Oil Treatment – Moisturizing, Soothing, Relaxing

Here are my favorite oils:
Extra virgin olive oil
Coconut oil
Silk Dreams Nourish Oil
Silk Dreams PRE

Oils

Hot Oil Treatments are great! Many oils can actually penetrate the hair shaft, bringing in moisture.

Mayonnaise Treatment – Strengthening, Moisturizing, Softening

A fourth of a cup to a 1/2 cup of mayonnaise is applied to my hair before shampooing.

Mayonnaise

Mayonnaise– I won’t eat it but I sure would put it in my hair!

Scalp Scrub – Detoxifying, Soothing, Cleansing

Coarse sea salt mixed with 2 drops of peppermint essential oil and enough olive oil to make a paste is massaged into the scalp for about 10-15 minutes.

Salt Scrub

Those body scrubs are not just for your skin! Try it on your scalp!

Fattening Treatment – Moisturizing and Softening

Mash one overripe avocado, then beat until it is smooth. Apply to hair and let sit for one hour.

Avocados!

Extremely fattening! Fat is good for the hair!

Regular Conditioner Treatment

Favorite conditioner is applied to dry hair before steam treatment.

Washing and Conditioning in Sections

I learned this method from http://www.growafrohairlong.com . I keep my hair sectioned in six parts while washing and conditioning in my hair, especially when I know I am going to be roller setting my hair. It’s a This shortens the roller setting time dramatically– and makes it easier.

Conair Shower Comb

Can’t live without my shower comb!

Using a Wide-toothed Shower Comb

I always use a shower comb to detangle my hair while I am rinsing conditioner out of my hair. The brand I currently use is the Conair shower comb. It’s a very inexpensive product (less than
$2.00) but it’s invaluable– don’t know what I would do without it.

Caffeine Rinse (Tea and Coffee)

Caffeine rinses dramatically reduce shedding due to the tannins in the mixtures. Just brew 1-2 cups of coffee or tea and pour over your hair and scalp after rinsing out your conditioner. This rinse serves as your leave-in conditioner. Your hair may feel a little weird while setting your hair, however, that feeling dissipates when the hair dries. You will see a DRAMATIC reduction in shedding. Since the pH of caffiene rinses are quite low (4-6) it closes the cuticle of the hair, leaving it shiny and detangled.

Bigelow Vanilla Chai

Although this tea tastes gross, it is my favorite brand to use as a caffeine rinse– and it smells heavenly!

Roller Setting Hair Upwards

Most people roller set downward, towards the nape. I have found that rolling the hair on the roller and rolling upwards straightens new growth. Also, my hair dries faster when I roll
this way! Look at my results:

Rolling hair upwards smooths new growth: I am four months post-relaxer in this picture and my curls lasted all day!

Try these tips and write me back to let me know how they are working for you! I am looking forward to some great responses!

Aceey’s Hair Regimen

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Remember Jesse from "Full House?" Yep, that's me!

I love my hair! The best part about healthy hair is that even if you cut it, it grows right back to the same lushness and length as before.

My hair has been featured on many hair care websites over the years and I get weave-checked on a daily, even with short hair! I didn’t always have healthy hair, though. It took me 14 months to go from damaged, chin length hair, to gorgeous hair that almost touched my waist. I keep my hair short now (armpit length) but it’s still healthy as ever! This is only a regimen page, looks like a mouthful but it really isn’t, I promise 😀 — I will post hair care tips in another blog post.

Having damaged, short hair was no fun.

My hair regimen, 1x a week:
1. Part hair in 6 sections.

2. Apply pre-shampoo treatment to each section and let sit for an hour before rinsing – I do a pre-treatment because shampoos can be so harsh, plus it provides extra conditioning.
Favorite pre-shampoo treatments:

  • Mayonnaise (you know, the stuff in a jar? Any non-salad dressing brand will do). I apply as if I am applying a relaxer. I consider this my protein treatment.
  • Oil (Grapeseed, Olive, Coconut, Dabur Vatika Coconut Hair Oil)
  • Silk Dreams PRE

3. Apply shampoo to sectioned hair, let sit for a few minutes, then rinse. Repeat if necessary.
Favorite shampoos:

4. Apply deep conditioner to each section of hair. Leave on for 10-20 minutes, then rinse.
Favorite deep conditioners:

4. Apply leave-in conditioner before roller setting. After my hair dries on the rollers, I flat iron the new growth only. I rarely apply direct heat to my ends (maybe 4 times a year, TOPS!).
Favorite leave-ins:

Daily Moisturizing/Sealing:

*Relaxing – Every three months
Linenage Shea Butter Relaxer (this is the only brand of relaxer that straightens my hair).

*Coloring – Every three months with Henna then Indigo powders. I do not use artificial dyes.
Favorite Brands:

  • Nupur
  • Karishma
  • Indigo from Ayurnatural Beauty
  • Jamila
  • Mumtaz

Aww, I miss having long hair.